Getting Unstuck
Sometimes people have a hard time admitting that they don’t know something. This could be for any number of reasons. It could be that not knowing something of “importance” somehow weakens them in relation to others. Or somehow makes them feel as though they’ve made a mistake that they should have or could have avoided…because they should/could/would have known. It does not really matter however, in the long run. What does matter is getting unstuck from immobilizing fears and insecurities.
Everyone makes mistakes…even babies (I don’t think they really are concerned however). Admitting on the inside or outside that you don’t know can allow you to know more. Admitting that we don’t know prepares us to take the next steps to know, to learn, and to grow stronger in our own way. Shoulda, woulda, coulda, do have a place in learning as long as you learn from those experiences and move forward. Just remember, everyone goes through shoulda, woulda, coulda. The difference is not anchoring yourself in them and what you do with those experiences. Become an expert in your own life....Because this is it…Right Now… Your life. Get to where you need to be Now. I would say, good luck! But this is not about luck, it is about Action.
Some people wait for the “perfect” moment or situation before they start something. First off, there’s rarely a “perfect” time to do something which is challenging or hard to do—that’s what makes it challenging and hard to do (comes with the territory). Preparation is key, but be honest with yourself (man-up or woman-up to admitting when you are hiding behind excuses). Sometimes when we put things off it gives us more time to think of reasons to put things off.
Don’t let talking or dreaming about your aspirations come to replace taking action or denying you of your true happiness and potential. If not now, when?
To your shining success,
John
About the Author
For over 20 years, John Cane has helped over 100,000 individuals in areas of Self Improvement. John is a Certified Integrated Wellness Coach (Mind, Body, and Spirit), motivational speaker, and writer. John has six certifications in Personal Growth and Development. His Journal Books, ‘Important Things I Remember from My Parents’ are used in schools and as an aid for adults in gaining strength in self-identity in the United States and Europe. John is currently pursuing his Doctoral Degree in Psychology & Interdisciplinary Inquiry at Saybrook University, Oakland, California.